Survival Tips for the Groom
You have popped the question and she has said “yes”, now the wheels are set in motion and the wedding planning process begins. Suddenly your bride to be changes from your sweet, love struck sweetheart to a crazy, stressed out organizing machine! You might need a little help getting through the planning process.
1. Show interest: Being the groom does not mean your job is just to show up on the day! You are about to start a life full of decisions that need to be made together, show her she made the right choice with you, by helping to decide on things for the wedding day. It may not matter to you about spots or stripes, but it does to your bride, and you care about her, so offer some input. Even if you can just boost her confidence about the decision she has made, then that is a job well done.
2. Offer to help: Take on some of the jobs yourself. Who knows you might really enjoy things like choosing the music or organising the transport, but always confirm everything with the bride before locking things in.
3. Don’t squabble over money: You will have a whole lifetime of money pressures so try to avoid it now. It is best to sit down together and organise a budget from the word go. Work out what is important to you both and what can be saved on. Make sure you are both on the same page about the kind of affair you are wanting, and if they really vary, you will both have to come to some sort of compromise (a word that you will have to deal with a lot once married).
4. Don’t drag your heels: If you have been assigned a job, then get it done. You will save yourself a major amount of ear bashing by doing so.
5. Be honest: If you really don’t like something then speak up! Maybe there is something that you really want to have included, so let her know. After all it is your wedding day too and if you don’t say anything then she will probably just assume you don’t care.
6. Remember you are a couple: Organise a weekend away, send flowers to her office, have a romantic dinner, share a bubble bath and a bottle of wine or anything that allows you to just connect as a couple… whatever you choose to do, it must have nothing to do with wedding planning!
7. Bucks night blunders: Don’t have your bucks party the night before the wedding and turn up at the alter stinking of booze. Best to organise these types of events a few weeks prior.
8. Have fun: Lastly, but most importantly, remember it is supposed to be fun! Try to enjoy the planning process and if your bride to be doesn’t seem to, maybe you could remind her.
